Can Communication Problems Lead to Divorce?

by Cathy O’Mahoney of Divorce Nicely

The Office for National Statistics show that In 2011, 117,588 people divorced in England and Wales and of those, 57,219 had children under 16.

So what factors may determine whether or not you become one of those statistics?

When acting as a divorce lawyer, the reasons given to me for divorce were many and varied.  Some people had grown tired of their spouse and craved excitement.  Some people had too much excitement and wanted a quieter life!  Some spouses didn’t talk to each other and others rowed and bickered constantly.  Some people felt controlled and under-appreciated while others had every comfort but no longer loved their other half.  Some had an unfaithful spouse and others felt that they had no life beyond caring for the children.  Some spouses had a good relationship with money whilst others were constantly in debt.  Whatever the reason, each had come to the conclusion in their own time that they did not wish to continue in the marriage.  This could be very difficult for their spouse to accept if such an option had not been discussed beforehand.

Above all, communication was an issue that came up time and time again.  Many spouses had fallen out of the practice of communicating and I often wondered whether a marriage could have been saved if time had been given to the problem at an earlier stage.  There are sources of support available and counselling can work wonders for spouses caught up in a cycle of mis-communication.  Couples caught up in destructive verbal interactions could benefit from learning conflict management skills and they may learn a new respect for each other.  It does, however, depend upon whether you feel that the marriage is worth saving.

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